Family relationships can be complicated, especially when a relative consistently tries to provoke or belittle you. Sometimes the person you grew up with becomes someone who brings more pain than joy to your life. Here's how to handle it:

1. Recognize the Pattern

• Notice when someone consistently tries to get a reaction from you
• Pay attention to topics they use to provoke you
• Observe if specific settings or witnesses cause, or prevent, their poor behavior

2. Set Clear Boundaries

• Limit engagement on triggering topics
• Be direct about what conversations you won't participate in
• Remember that "No" is a complete sentence

3. Pause. Then Respond

• You don't have to engage with every provocation
• Keep responses brief and neutral
• Walk away from hostile conversations. Literally. Walk away.

4. Accept What You Can't Change

• You can't control others' behavior
• Focus on managing your own reactions
• Understand that some relationships may need distance

5. Prioritize Your Peace

• It's okay to limit contact with toxic family members
• You don't owe anyone your emotional energy
• Protect your mental well-being by asking for backup from trustworthy family

Remember: Blood relation doesn't give anyone the right to disrespect you. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is create space between yourself and family members.