When Healthy Feels Weird: Navigating Life’s Plot Twists

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December 12, 2024
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Hey there! Let's talk about something that doesn't get enough attention - that bizarre moment when your life is actually going well and it lowkey freaks you out. Yeah, you read that right.

Ever found yourself in a genuinely healthy relationship and thought "this feels TOO good"? Or finally you’re making positive changes in your life but feeling weirdly unsettled about it? Spoiler alert: you're not alone, and there's actually a fascinating reason behind this.

Let me explain: when you're used to chaos, calm can feel suspicious AF. It's like your brain is constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. "This is too quiet... something must be wrong!" Sound familiar?

Three reality checks for when things are actually going well:

  1. When your life's upgrading, your anxiety needs a minute to catch up. Your brain is usually running on expectations from prior phases of life. Use this knowledge to remind yourself that every ‘ick’ feeling doesn’t mean ~danger approaches~
  2. Change is uncomfortable, even when it's good change. That discomfort doesn't mean you're doing it wrong - it means you're growing.
  3. Expecting/Predicting/Preparing for the hard time, doesn’t make them less likely to happen. Work on enjoying the moment you’re in now and stop trying to use your fortune-telling skills to manage the future. 

Sometimes the hardest part isn't surviving the bad times - it's learning to trust the good ones.